Change Doesn’t Always Announce Itself
The thing about transitions? They often begin quietly. Mine started the moment I realized I would never meet someone’s expectations — and decided I was okay with that.
It took me two years to recognize that moment as the beginning of a major shift — something I now help others reflect on through my free Transition Guide.
Within the past decade, I’ve:
Earned my masters
Relocated to a new city from my hometown
Lost my father and navigated grief
Experienced four periods of unemployment in five years
And that’s not even everything!
But this transition — the one that’s shaping who I am now — didn’t start with a crisis.
You Don’t Have to Earn Rest — You Have to Plan for It
For as long as I can remember, my birthday week has been sacred. Non-negotiable. Time off.
I still remember my 29th birthday. I had to work on my birthday because I had just started a new job the week before and didn’t have any PTO accrued yet.
I cried all morning as I got ready for work. I don’t care how that sounds. I didn’t want to spend my birthday working and I felt like it was setting me up for a hard year. And that was a hard year.
That was the year I decided: never again. I’m not working on my birthday again.
Slowing Down Isn’t Losing Momentum — It’s Gaining Clarity
As I was preparing to launch something new, I ran out of steam.
Let me take a step back. I had a goal in mind. I knew my target audience and the problem I wanted to solve.
I had a strategy, a plan, a workflow, and a schedule. And I was on track.
But then I ran out of steam. That was something I didn’t plan for.