Why being the bigger person won’t save you from dysfunction

I saw a post on Threads about how it’s not your job to detox your toxic manager. It’s not your job.

I wish someone had told me this a few years ago — so I’m telling you now.

I had a toxic manager. Who hasn’t? But this one in particular had some deep-rooted issues, and I gave her so much grace, even though she never asked for grace.

In fact, she once told me, “You’re so kind and politically correct, but I want you to tell me if someone on the team isn’t doing what they’re supposed to be doing.”

She basically wanted me to throw people under the bus. I didn’t. Because I wasn’t going to act out of character. My integrity stayed intact.